Best man speach!!!

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Paddy scooby

Middle Lane Hogs
Hi all,

Need a bit of advice, its my brothers wedding now in 5 weeks and Im the best man of course, has anyone any advice on the speach end of things? I have read alomost 2 books on it and i think they give kinda cheesy lines to say :mooner:. The structure is fairly well sorted its just the substance now!!

There are a few really good ones on U-tube so seen them :lol:, (If you want a bit of a laugh you should check them out!! just type in 'Ultimate best mans speach') but whats the general opinion on slide shows, photographs etc? :ponder:

Any advice or cog notes would be well appreciated. :thumbsup:

Thanks lads

Paddy.
 
i have seen some of the ones on u tube and they are very funny. :lol:

i dunno a whole pile about speaches but i was at a wedding where the best man had a slide show and it worked well, i suppose because every one of the pictures took the piss out of the groom, and he didnt really have to say a lot about the pictures they kinda spoke for themselves and they got a laugh aswell.

good luck with the speach man :thumbsup:
 
I was best man a couple of years ago. Have a couple of drinks before hand. Have a glass of water in front of you in case your mouth goes dry or if you freeze just take a drink of water while you calm yourself down :lol: Just take your time . Take deep breaths and try and relax. You'll be grand after the first couple of lines and when you get a laugh out of the guests at the wedding :thumbsup:
 
I would ignore all those books etc....just make sure you tell some stories that are real to you...complement the bride and how much she makes your brother a better man and how your family love her..blah blah..you must slag your brother anyway? just take that with you to the stage and finish off by saying something nice about him..better if its natural and from the heart IMO
 
hope i never get the dreaded call to do one!!!!
bad enough doing my own at my wedding couple of years ago!!!
nerve wreckin stuff!!!
 
Yeah, sure was nervous at the speaches for my own wedding...........nerves went around the whole top table then, everyone stuttering but when you settle in its grand :thumbsup:
 
Thanks lads I know what you mean. Awh I have no problem doing public speaking but its just trying to get the audience to laugh. I dont have a very active imagination so Ill have to trawl the net soooo.

Thanks folks for the feed back.

Rgds

Paddy
 
Hi paddy, take your time and be yourself i think if people try to be too funny it mighten work

just be natural take your time and youll be grand best of luck :thumbsup:
 
First of all ya poor fecker-done it once and never again, I was in bits for the day ontill I got it over and done with :eek7:

Just Complement the bride and bridesmaids and everyone you can think of to kill a bit of time, just one funny story about your brother and about how great he is and then a bit of :icon_blahblah: and Bobs you uncle :thumbsup:
Cheers
John
 
Done it twice... and kinda enjoyed it! Don't get yourself worked up over it... have one or to drinks to calm things! Take your time fella!

Try not to use to many book one liners or quotes off the web... they'll be spotted a mile off and get sympathy laughs! Just be yourself... be genuine... and have a good few stories on your bro... nothing too scandalous! Always best to imply... than to tell the gruesome details of what he got up to!

Best of luck Paddy... :thumbsup:
 
Thanks again lads, you's are stars! I know exactly what you's are saying.

Awh Ill be grand just a bit of Dutch courage to get me on a role I think. Sure Ill keep you's posted on how it goes! The reception is in Cabra Castle so should be a good day.

Cheers

Paddy
 
Cabra Castle is a great place for a wedding and they are not too concerned about closing times either!

I've done a good few wedding speeches and to be honest the best advice is not to try to be too funny as sometimes the audience wont get the joke and the unexpected silence kind of unsettles you a bit! When preparing your speech you have to factor in the obvious fact that a lot of the guests wont know you and wont know much, if anything, about the grooms.

As regards the material always speak from the heart. People will always remember a genuine heartfelt speech. Stories wise everyone loves a good story so rather than having lots of short stories one or two long stories where the guests can follow the story as it develops is always a winner. Stories of funny childhood mishaps always go down well but at the end of the day you want people to know what a great guy your brother is and what he means to you so getting a good balance between light hearted anecdotes and actually telling everyone how proud you are of him is the key.

I learned all of this from my own mistakes with speeches that were peppered with throw away one liners, too many short stories and not actually saying enough sincere things about the groom. Dont forget to mention the Bride. The last wedding I was at the Groom never mentioned his new wife at all in his speech as he was too cock sure of himself to make any notes!

The most important bit of advice is to enjoy yourself and try and relax. There is always huge amount of goodwill in the room for all speakers so everyone is on your side. You'll be fine :thumbsup:

Frawls
 
i was best man for my brother last august,,just take it nice and handy,not too long(bout 7 mins is plenty i think),say every1 looks beautiful,1 or 2 short stories bout your bro,finish wit somethin nice bout him and wish them all the best,,cameraman told me it was one of the funniest speech's he ever heard so i was happy!!best of luck
 
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